I recently came across an interesting article, based on an economic journal study about happiness in life. The article observes that: ‘Staying in education longer does not necessarily make someone happier, according to new research.’ The research was based on data from the UK and Germany and found that teenagers spending more time in education generally did better and achieved better jobs but that they weren’t necessarily happier with their lives. Is this a surprise?
Only if you think that a good job equals more money and that money equates to greater happiness.
A good job can be demanding, stressful and take us out of our comfort zone into challenging territory. Add to that questionable management, colleagues you don’t relate to and a growing realisation that you’re on a treadmill until you retire or fall over and is it any wonder that there’s no guarantee of happiness? Much has been written on the subject and interpretation is subjective, according to our own attitudes and beliefs, but for what it’s worth, here are my thoughts:
“The concept of ‘work life balance’ is a fallacy” – Not because it isn’t important to consider both but because I think it’s more about ‘life’ – some of which includes paid activity and some of which we choose to do. We have one life and to enjoy it, we have to find satisfaction in all that we do, whether at work or at play.
“You do have the power to change your life for the better” – I like the expression, ‘you get what you tolerate’. We have a tendency to blame others for our lack of success, failure on the job, missed promotion, etc. One thing we do have control over is ourselves, how we behave, how we respond and whether we choose to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to something or someone. Realising that we have this power and choosing to exercise it can be liberating!
“What is my purpose?” – Not a trite question in any sense. Being clear about what we want our lives to look like, what our values are, what principles we live by and where we belong are key to having a sense of direction. How many people sit down and explicitly describe this? Few of us know we want to be the proverbial train driver when we grow up but what we can do is define what sort of things we’re good at, what sort of environments we work well in and build on this knowledge to actively direct our lives. Often friends, family or colleagues can provide objective insight – why not ask for it?
Okay, I could go on to list a hundred factors and there will be a hundred more but the point is, do you know what matters to you, how to live with integrity and direction, and what you need to do to make things better rather than accept the status quo?
Everyone is different but there are some common themes, which apply to us all and these tend to include direction, focus, freedom and autonomy. They have to include doing things that we value, with people who support us, and share some of our values. We usually need some variety in our lives. We also need some certainty. Each of us sits at our own point on a spectrum. The trick is finding and recognising our own preferences, then actively working with what matters to us to move forward.
Back to the survey on happiness then, is it any surprise that more education doesn’t equate to more happiness? Not unless school, college, university or apprenticeship includes some of the above (which to the best of my knowledge it rarely does). So if you want to be happier, how do you go about finding your direction then steering an appropriate course?
My suggestion is play to your strengths – if you are a reader then there is plenty of guidance in print. If you are more of a listener, or you learn better by doing, look for courses or coaches or seek a mentor. If you just need to get on and do it yourself, then enlist the help of friends, family and colleagues, and make a bold statement about what you are going to do.
Then do it, reflect, learn and adapt again. Remember, you get what you tolerate so the only question is, what will you tolerate in terms of happiness in life?
Jaime Beckett, Principal Organisational Practitioner – jaime.beckett@icecreates.com
















