There are so many books, blogs and social media posts out there about positive emotions and happiness, that we may be forgiven for sometimes forgetting how our darker, more negative emotions and states can actually be really beneficial too.
I often engage with people across social media and digital platforms (Entheos, Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Puffell, Reddit, Twitter and YouTube) who are interested in positive psychology and all things behaviour change communications and engagement. Just recently, I have noticed a bit of backlash against what people are calling ‘The Happiness Racket’, which is the saturation of all things happiness and mindfulness dominating the ‘positive side’ of social media.
If I’m honest, I love it all, but I often feel there is something missing and wonder whether happiness and living mindfully all the time is the only ultimate goal?
I’m reading a book at the moment, which is a breath of fresh air amongst positive psychology books. I really like the insight about emotional, social and mental agility. I now appreciate and accept that our full range of emotions play a part in driving our success and fulfilment, with the author discussing life aspirations that go beyond happiness to wholeness.
My key behaviour change action would be not to avoid the certain thoughts, feelings and situations that take you off the road to happiness, but to embrace them and utilise them in your pursuit of success, in the manner of wholeness (not just happiness).
I’d love to know your thoughts on this!
Michael VJ Jones, ICE Creates Ltd (0151 647 4700 / firstname.lastname@example.org)